WISE WOMEN DIARIES

Financial Abuse, Family Court & Healing Lineage Shame | Mama Wilder's Story

Emily (@mama_wilder) is a mother of three and founder of the non-profit for under-resourced women, The Mama Wilder Foundation. She shares her personal story of her first marriage, how the abusive dynamics mimicked aspects of her childhood, the importance of being aware of resources available for single mothers, signs of financial abuse, shedding the lineage shame of being a single mother, how many of our systems do not in fact keep us safe, the story of representing herself in a horrific three year long family court case, and the beauty of starting over, again and again. 

 

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Freebirthing at 17 | Alysa's Story

Alysa (@youcan_birth) a mother and doula, shares her experience of getting pregnant at 17 and assuming she would have a hospital birth.... only to then freebirth!!! But unfortunately, her postpartum was sabotaged by professionals in the system. Alysa shares her full story in hopes that other women will learn from her horrific experience. 

 

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Using the Preconception Time to Prepare for Freebirth | Terra's Story

Terra (@terraperanteaux) shares her journey of discovering freebirth before she became a mom, using the preconception time to learn, research, and step into greater trust for her first birth and motherhood experience. She tells the tale of her first freebirth but we also discuss many topics like treating babies with respect (because they are human beings not objects), resolving a tongue tie with just fascia work, preparing very well for postpartum, intuitive mothering, and how she notices her mind wanting to be a being a victim to her baby... but she takes radical responsibility instead! 

From Rigid Schedules, Sleeping, and Pumping to Intuitive, Breastfeeding Mothering | Krystle's Story

Krystle (@milkandwellness) shares her experience of struggling to conceive, how her intuition said "no" to fertility meds, and the big lessons learned from her first birth and breastfeeding journey. She took the lessons from her first child and was able to have a beautiful natural birth and breastfeeding journey with her second child, which ignited her passion for advocating for breastfeeding education. Krystle broke free from being a rigid, modern mother who scheduled sleeping, and eating, and pumping like all the motherhood books teach, to becoming a co-sleeping, intuitive, exclusive breastfeeding mother and her mental health is exponentially better for it! 

Life Experiences That Led to Choosing Homebirth for the First Baby | Kristina's Story

Kristina (@crunchymamakristina) shares her life experiences that led to her distrust in the medical system from birth control and being prescribed Accutane. Kristina explores the impact of family dynamics and how "daddy issues" can manifest into promiscuity and seeking validation from men.  She shares the magical story from plant medicine before she unexpectedly gets pregnant and how she and her partner navigated choosing homebirth when he initially had fears. Kristina speaks to the beautiful dynamic between the masculine and feminine within the birth portal and during postpartum. She felt incredibly supported by her partner's masculine energy and helped him prepare ahead of time about how he can best support her.  

Homebirth Midwife Sabotage and Inner Healing | Anna's Story

Anna (@annainauthority) shares the experience of abuse and sabotage of her homebirth, but afterwards, she recognized that she unconsciously gave the midwives her authority and thus, her healing journey began. Through breastfeeding, she began to reconnect with her self-worth and realized the impact of generational trauma and religious cult programming. This conversation discusses the importance of learning to reparent oneself, how the parent's nervous system effects children, how to start the healing journey, creating safety within your body, and healing from autoimmune issues. Anna shares the beauty of reclaiming safety and ownership over one's life.

Healing Generational Sexual Patterns and Trauma | McKenna's Story

McKenna shares her empowering story of starting the healing journey at age 16 because of porn addiction. Her family's generational trauma and patterns were then revealed and she radically committed to healing herself for herself, her marriage, and future children. She discusses how the culmination of her childhood trauma and porn addiction effected her brain programming in regards to being a woman and sex. She also highlights the significance of rebuilding relationships while utilizing boundaries for balance and protection.

 

Mentioned: Marriage Therapist Dr Sue Johnson's book 'Hold Me Tight' and 'Love Sense'

Breaking Free From Romantic Narcissistic Abuse | Jordan's Story

Jordan explores her journey of breaking free from narcissistic abuse in her early 20's by a romantic partner and the process of healing and self-discovery. She explains the typical lovebombing that occurs by many narcissistic partners, how she was manipulated by having the core need of being seen and heard filled in the beginning of the relationship, and how applying Existential Kink concepts (deep, honest shadow work) to her life led her to greater healing and freedom.

'How To Spot Narcissistic Abuse' Article

An Article about Lovebombing

The Gifts from Six Years of 'Infertility' and Miscarriages | Anette's Story

Anette (@doula_anettehommel), a mother and doula, shares her path to motherhood and personal awakening: years of 'infertility,' consequences from birth control, how a miscarriage changed the trajectory of her life for the better, and the impact of healing generational trauma. Anette was deep in victimhood for a while but then her spirituality grew and she discovered how the Universe was FOR HER, not against her.

We discuss the complexities of adoption, how most people want a baby to fill in their childhood wounds, her amazing homebirth, and how fulfilling it is to honor her daughter's full spectrum of emotions as a toddler!

Multiple Miscarriages Awakened the Deepest Trust | Stephanie's Story

Stephanie passionately shares her life journey from trauma and toxicity to Deep Trust with her feminine body, Nature, and God. She emphasizes the significance of women learning how to Receive, the power of surrendering to the natural course of conception and birth, and how her five miscarriages radically transformed her into a trusting, grounded, feminine, and healed woman. Stephanie did not have monthly cycles for years and doctors could not explain why or how.... and yet she got pregnant and birthed two healthy, beautiful babies!! She explains how she courageously faced the fear of death as she was pregnant, the dark underworld experience of her first homebirth, and the freebirth her second child at home in their yurt in the woods!